The title of this blog is the title of an exhibit at the Minneapolis Institute of Arts. I visited the MIA on Saturday afternoon with my son and partner. Not long after visiting the above-titled exhibit, we heard yelling nearby. One woman was repeating "Stop it!" amid many other indecipherable screams. My son was not currently within eyesight, so I ran toward the yells hoping to not see him amongst the unknown chaos. He was not.
I had never felt so disheartened for the human race as when I witnessed a man lying on the floor, held up by a female security guard, being kicked in the back of the head and again in the face. Two men took running starts to cause as much damage to this man's head as they could.
I don't watch violent scenes in movies because they are too disturbing, and here I watched it live. Tears came to my eyes for the man on the floor. What was the point of the people beating a man senseless? Apparently, the attackers were protesters — what message does their rageful act illustrate? What was their intention? Do they even know? Peacefulness is not a word that comes to mind.
My son and I spent considerable time in the exhibit with the Buddha statues. Before this incident arose, we shared with each other that one Buddha, in particular, seemed to emanate an energy. We retraced our steps and found it was the same Buddha for us both. In my eyes, and not coincidentally, it was the Seated Jina who represents "a liberated being whose renunciation of passion and anger is intended to guide other individuals towards a life of nonviolence and respect for all living things."
I wonder how it is that people justify their beliefs by abusing others? We violently defend our beliefs without question although we have the ability to question ourselves! We, as humans, have brains that allow us to think about the fact that we think, and yet we choose not to see the lens in which we view the world.
Perhaps we can see the lens of others if we step out from behind our own?
If we have too much or too little of something we are discontent. Can you recognize that within yourself? Our stress encompasses a discrepancy between what we have and what we want. Alternatively, what we are doing and what we want to be doing. "Balance" is cliche as of late, so I prefer "Sweet Spot" as the goal of creating a thriving life experience.
Work, pleasure, children, exercise, food, sleep, etc. — these things all require living within your personal sweet spot to feel content. To consider more depth, knowing your values and living according to them creates the sweet spot that leads to happiness. For if you value honesty and yet lie or withhold the truth from others, how do you suppose you will feel about yourself?
I asked myself years ago "what good is exercise if I have no social life because everything revolves around working out and eating the right foods?" I may be healthy (may be...) and in shape but with no one to share my life with, what difference does it make? What am I really after with my rigid exercise and eating schedule? Where is the sweet spot of honoring the people in my life and filling my health bucket?
How does someone who works ('work' has multiple meanings) incessantly and feels stressed when they are not "producing" find their sweet spot?
For those that struggle with eating and weight, has their satiety sweet spot been lost? How might it be found?
What about time spent alone and with others? Some people isolate, and some people crave company. Moreover, yet both are uncomfortable with the opposite. A sweet spot is necessary to become comfortable being with others and being with one's self.
Sleep may be the simplest example of finding a sweet spot — for few of us are content with the hours we get per night - whether it is too few or too many. What's your sweet spot?
What do you find when you consider the ways you may not be paying attention to your sweet spots?
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