Choose growth — or not.
Stepping out of one's comfort zone in order to take one more step toward a goal isn't easy — especially when it's a long term goal. Some people seem to easily connect with their motivation and welcome the growth that ensues challenge. Others appear comfortable sitting in their familiar muck for a while before making changes. And, fortunately, life provides a wealth of opportunity to choose growth — or not.
Opportunity for new and challenging activities abound when owning and building one's own business. The list of novel, exciting and unfamiliar aspects of growing from a personal trainer, to a business owner, to a wellness coach and developing a group wellness coaching practice is daunting midstream, as well in hindsight. For me, this journey is about visualizing what and who I want to become, and every small step taken gives rise to a sense of accomplishment, pride and meaning in the future.
Surrounding oneself with supportive, championing people enhances growth and the opportunity for successful goal achievement (this, of course, is the role of a coach). And perseverance is a handy strength when learning, practicing and developing new skills and plans. I feel very fortunate to have the support and backing of many clients, colleagues, friends, and family — much mahalo to all of you!
I recently gave an informal presentation to a group of women on the topic of wellbeing. My client, Corrin, a personal training client who also values my training and experience in the area of emotional and mental wellness, asked me to speak to residents of a property she manages. Though daunting, the experience provided a rich opportunity for learning and connection. I'm excited to hone my skills and knowledge by continuing to present on the topic of wellbeing, granting the opportunity to expand my wellness reach!
Two new videos have been added to my website; they're both snippets of this very casual presentation and can be found on my AlohaVideo page. I look forward to sharing the evolution of my presentation "the fitness of wellbeing™" with all of you!
Aloha and mahalo for your continued interest and support!
Edit in our head?
As I wrote a heartfelt message in a card purchased for a close friend yesterday, it occurred to me that hand writing a note without prior edits is a rare occurrence these days.
I didn’t write any drafts. I intentionally wrote my thoughts in ink, inside a card I purchased. I had to thoughtfully consider my words because there were no do–overs. I had to choose intentional language as to keep the text within the bounds of the given space. And I was responsible for spelling and punctuation. My reward for investing time and thought conveying meaningful feelings to another human being are pride, accomplishment and connection.
I wonder — as we’ve become so accustomed to writing with Pages or Word knowing that our spelling will be corrected and that we can easily go back and edit our finished (or unfinished) product, have we lost the skill of being intentional with our words? How might our careless writing impact our verbal skills? How has our vocabulary and emotional connectivity suffered because we’re unlearning how to edit our words in our heads through the convenience of technology?
As you set out for Ithaka
hope your road is a long one,
full of adventure, full of discovery.
angry Poseidon - don't be afraid of them:
you'll never find things like that on your way
as long as you keep your thoughts raised high,
as long as a rare excitement
stirs your spirit and your body.
wild Poseidon - you won't encounter them
unless you bring them along inside your soul,
unless your soul sets them up in front of you.
Hope your road is a long one.
May there be summer mornings when,
with what pleasure, what joy,
you enter harbors you're seeing for the first time;
may you stop at Phoenician trading stations
to buy fine things,
mother of pearl and coral, amber and ebony,
sensual perfumes of every kind -
as many sensual perfumes as you can;
and may you visit many Egyptian cities
to learn and go on learning from their scholars.
Keep Ithaka always in your mind.
Arriving there is what you're destined for.
But don't hurry the journey at all.
Better if it lasts for years,
so you're old by the time you reach the island,
with all the wealth you've gained on the way,
not expecting Ithaka to make you rich.
Ithaka gave you the marvelous journey.
Without her you wouldn't have set out.
She has nothing left to give you now.
And if you find her poor, Ithaka won't have fooled you.
Wise as you will have become, so full of experience,
You'll have understood by then what these Ithakas mean.
C. P. Cavafy
Our human brains are amazing!
We have the ability to think about our ability to think! An awareness of our awareness! We can take an observer's view of our experiences — like a movie.
Though research of our brain's full potential is in its infancy, one skill we can begin practicing given our awareness of our thoughts and feelings is to step away from them — to not be bound up by them as though they author who we are. We have thoughts and feelings, we are not our thoughts and feelings. Our brains have the capacity to distinguish our feelings and thoughts as separate from our Self — through this awareness we're able to choose how our thoughts and feelings affect us.
In addition, we're not responsible for the feelings and thoughts of others, nor are we able to make anyone else feel what we want them to — they have their feelings based on their interpretation of experiences. The reverse is that no one else is responsible for our feelings and no one can make us feel or think anything — we have our thoughts and feelings based on our interpretation of experiences.
While recognizing that we are more than our thoughts and feelings and that our exteriors exhibit something incomplete, we begin to realize the same is true for others. It's through the awareness of our Self as separate from our thoughts, feelings and experiences that we foster more authentic, compassionate and fulfilling relationships.
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