Graduating and Creating a Vision
I recently returned from the University of North Florida where I completed my Wellcoaches Professional Coach Training. It was a meaningful experience seeing my classmates and instructors again after nine months of working together telephonically. The three days were rich with exciting tools, current research and practical theories to use with clients and to take a deep dive into personal development.
While I'll miss the structure of having a class each week, I'm looking forward to my continued application of the lessons and choosing my next coaching development endeavor. The theories we've studied are a great jumping off point for further education, and nothing reinforces learning like doing!
One of the assignments given on the first day and due on the last day was writing and presenting an A Letter. It's a letter written to a client from the perspective of having worked with them for a year and having received high marks from them as their coach. In the letter, we are to tell our client why we feel we have earned an A as their coach. Our instructors collected the letters when our presentations were complete and will mail them to each of us in a year — a reminder of our professional vision and our personal potential.
Below is the letter I wrote.
I feel honored receiving an A as your coach. When you and I work together, we grow together.
I authentically invest in you and your agenda. I am compassionately and curiously present with you without bringing projections and attachments. And, I share my abundant energy with you to inspire and empower your innate courage and confidence.
You have all the strength and resources you need within you; I simply shine a light on them so that you might embrace them.
You are unstoppable!
Observations vs. Evaluations
I've never seen a lazy man;
I've seen a man who never ran
while I watched him, and I've seen
a man who sometimes slept between
lunch and dinner, and who'd stay
at home upon a rainy day,
but he was not a lazy man.
Before you call me crazy,
think, was he a lazy man or
did he just do things we label "lazy"?
I've never seen a stupid kid;
I've seen a kid who sometimes did
things I didn't understand
or things in ways I hadn't planned;
I've seen a kid who hadn't seen
the same places where I had been,
but he was not a stupid kid.
Before you call him stupid,
think, was he a stupid kid or did he
just know different things that you did?
Ive looked as hard as I can look
but never ever seen a cook;
I saw a person who combined
ingredients on which we dined,
A person who turned on the heat
and watched the stove that cooked the meat--
I saw those things but not a cook.
Tell me, when you're looking,
Is it a cook you see or is it someone
doing things that we call cooking?
What some of us call lazy
some call tired or easy-going,
what some of us call stupid
some just call a different knowing,
so I've come to the conclusion,
it will save us all confusion
if we don't mix up what we can see
with what is our opinion.
Because you may, I want to say also;
I know that's only my opinion.
— Ruth Bebermeyer
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