Back up a minute!
I'm going to challenge you to consider your grumpiness. I'm not talking about what comes after grumpy, anger and resentment, I'm talking about an outward, irritated demeanor.
Have you ever stopped to consider what came before grumpy? Do you blame something or someone outside of yourself? Perhaps the dishes are still in the sink even though you told your child to do them. Or there was a long line at the bank. Or perhaps someone else was grumpy and you decided you wanted a piece of that action and put on your best grumpy face, too. Life was fine then something or someone did something that didn't fit into your comfortable world view and you became grumpy.
So what is grumpy? What are you saying to others when you're grumpy? What are others saying to you when they're grumpy? What benefit comes from treating people in a grumpy manner? And I ask again; what came before grumpy?
Grumpiness, or the outward expression of irritation, is a signal to ourselves that some particular need of ours is not being met and we have not taken productive, actionable steps to take care of it. Instead we show the world that we're not happy and it's up to other people to make changes in what they're doing so that we can get back to being comfortable. While grumpy, we blame, label, criticize, and compare others to get them to comply with what we want rather than taking a step back, considering what precipitated the grumpiness, and taking responsibility for our needs. Grumpiness may even be a threat to others; comply or stronger emotional outbursts will follow.
In the above examples, it is our need to have order and cleanliness, not necessarily our children's so either doing it ourselves or finding a better way to request investment in a clean home from our children might be considered. At the bank, perhaps we're in a hurry to be somewhere so our need was a swift transaction; it was our responsibility to provide adequate time, it is not the bank teller's fault that you're now running late. And if you took on being grumpy because so-and-so was grumpy (she started it!), you might want to consider if your emotions are often influenced by what others are displaying. If you tend to match or attempt to fix or change the outward expression of others, it's time to take personal responsibility for your own feelings and needs.
I challenge you to bring awareness to your grumpiness. What can you take responsibility for?
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