We humans like fairness. And, we like to know we're the best and that we're right.
Of course if we're the best and right, then by default everyone else must be less than the best and wrong.
What would happen if we each looked at all the ways we cajole to appear right, the best, and to get our fair share?
How many ways do you appraise and judge others? Have you learned how to observe people and things without evaluating them?
What happens when you discover others have judged you? If you're like most people, you turn the tables on their flaws. After all, you're just balancing the score, which is only fair, right?! And, it's an instant self-esteem booster. It's also an attempt to affirm (to oneself and others) that the other is amiss.
When you realize that you are not blameless or faultless (nor do you get to be the martyr), compassion for the plight of others appears. If someone gives you the stink-eye, interrupt your assumptions and contemplate the lessons available to you.
The next time you find yourself sharing your evaluations of others, pause and examine your intentions. Get curious about the benefits you're reaping while appraising others. The picture isn't pretty, yet the reward that arrives with personal responsibility is tranquility.
Learn to be authentic with yourself. Learn to self-reflect. And learn to take responsibility. Only then can you be authentic with others.
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