Slowing Down To Speak Authentically
I've recently been considering my tendency to speak fast. I've always had the tendency and most people seem to accept it as part of my personality, as did I until recently.
I believe most of us speed up our speech when we're nervous; such as in public speaking. Mine tends to be more pervasive, especially if I've had too much caffeine! However, in continuing to learn about mindfulness and emotional intelligence, I would like to learn to slow down. I have a hunch that the fast pace I tend to do most everything in correlates with the speed of my speech. Haven't you noticed that the most high energy people are also the ones that speak the fastest? And sometimes (but not always) the loudest?
I recently recognized that to speak fast, to hurry, to rush, is to force speech (thoughts) onto others. So, to slow down, to be mindful of what I'm thinking and saying (and doing), feels more respectful to others, and this is why I'd like to practice slowing down.
When I back up to consider why I speak fast (when it's not out of nervousness or anxiety), I believe it's an insecurity that the person (people) I'm speaking with may not want to hear what I have to say. While deep seeded and long standing, I protect myself by "forcing" my words out quickly to be sure I'm heard. This, of course, is a fallacy; if someone doesn't want to hear what I have to say, my pace, tone, pitch, and/or volume won't matter. This I know from experience as I've also been in the company of people who speak over me and interrupt to which I simply check out, even when I'm standing right in front of them.
This is my journey; to slow down and be mindful of my thoughts and emotions so that I can respectfully and authentically engage in meaningful conversation.
In what ways can you enhance your conversations?
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