What is your definition of failure?
According to dictionary.com, The definition of failure is: "To fall short of success or achievement in something expected, attempted, desired, or approved."
Notice the definition is specific to a task or activity; failure does NOT define the person doing the task or activity.
So, what if it is our expectations that elicit the feeling of failure?
And what would it take to wrap your brain around goals set toward learning and experimentation rather than a specific outcome?
As many of you know, I love my two mountain bikes! Just last week I witnessed a young boy doing wheelies as I was riding to the gym. When I saw him, I thought "I want to do that!" So I set a goal to experiment with something seemingly reserved for young people and professionals. Naturally, while learning to do wheelies, I don't expect to get it right immediately; in fact, I foresee falling on my ass at some point because I don't YET know how to shift my body weight above one wheel without toppling over backward. Does that mean I fail? Don't be silly! It merely suggests that it may be prudent for me to practice on sand or grass rather than pavement. My goal is to learn; I have no expectations, just a fun experiment in progress.
What is your definition of success?
When learning a new skill, do you avoid tasks and activities in which you may not succeed? And what might you try if your focus were on experimentation and learning rather than on an outcome or perfect result?
To follow up the definition of failure with the definition of success: "The favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one's goals."
If we could set our goals as experiments, we'd find success in everything we do!
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