If you do or say something that compels you to tell others who find out not to tell anyone else, perhaps it's time to change what you're saying and doing.
If you'd be ashamed or embarrassed to have some people find out what you're up to, what's your intention in doing it at all?
When you hurt others with your words or actions and then blame, rationalize, project, justify, or deny the hurt you've caused, what might happen if you took responsibility?
If it's too ugly to look in the mirror and face your intentions, you've just learned something valuable about yourself.
Keep looking. Then take responsibility and make changes.
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